There are people who exhaust, who swallow our time, patience and energy. They are mysterious people, PhDs in unfulfilled promises, who are never at peace and sow wars with the whole world. So we have to be selective and wise in our relationships and surround ourselves only with people who inspire us. An interesting studies on social interaction Were conducted From time to time came to a curious conclusions. 1 in 10 people has a personality style that experts have defined as “happiness saboteurs.” The people who deplete us are perhaps the most common because they have, sometimes unknowingly, stressful behaviors that condition directly those environments they attend. I do not leave anyone behind, but some people are gradually losing me, but without realizing it. I turn away from them because they exhaust me, because they take my energy and because I do not allow anyone to spoil my happiness. I prefer to surround myself with people who inspire me. Something that many of us can think of when defining this type of profile is that we are talking again about toxic people.
That is not correct! We should not fall so easily in the use of these labels that have little scientific but rather a lot of common sense, since we generally neglect specific behaviors and attitudes of a person or a style of personality. If a person exhausts us, it is because we ourselves are permeable. We invite you to reflect on this.
People who exhaust: There are people who exhaust us in our family, in our work, in our friendships and even in our affective relationships. They exhaust us when we are prisoners of affection, and being loved becomes a “merchant” who points out our shortcomings and then snakes them. We get tired of selfish discourses, prejudices and fields undermined by victimization and blackmail. Many experts explains that people are not usually fully aware of the impact of this type of bond on our emotional balance and our health. The emotional impact of people who sabotage our calm. We could say that the term “burn” acquires an almost real connotation here. People who deplete us regularly use us as an “emotional container,” they revise their thoughts, fears, and insecurities to the point of slowly wearing down such an intimate and powerful architecture that forms our brain. People who deplete us cause us a high level of stress. When this negative emotion becomes chronic, the neuronal dendrites (the ramifications that bind our nerve cells) break up because of this harmful and stressful overexcitation. The area where this change occurs most often is our hippocampus, where the memory and the emotions are.
The fact that we feel exhausted, of being “permeable” to this type of behavior, far from erasing or giving us a certain tiredness, always keeps us on alert. It is the clear, instinctive sensation of wanting to defend ourselves from “something” or “someone,” to live always on the defensive, but at the same time feeling trapped. Certainly in the face of these same situations many have already told him “well, learn to set limits”. But in reality it is something much simpler than all this. Just be aware of something essential: no one has the right to “burn” all their happiness, no one should bring you storms when you inhabit an ocean of calm. No one should take you on this journey as far as your inner demons hide. Look for people who inspire you, not stir the flame of your internal fires to the point where you “burn”.
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I like people who inspire me. Usually it is said that when someone is very, very young, he does not choose his friendships or his first loves, he receives what appears with passion and without any filter, leading him to a momentary blindness that will surely be cured with over the years. Over time we have become much more selective, more skillful and less permeable to what does not serve, to that which is exhausted, to what wants to steal what is legitimate for us: happiness. Seeking, or rather, allowing us to meet people who inspire us is a necessity in which we should invest on a daily basis. For those who inspire open the windows of the soul and light the “beacon” of our mind to allow us to emerge from our nights of apathy, fears and solitude. Having mothers, fathers or siblings who inspire us, for example, is something that also gives us exceptional foundations to grow in freedom and with maturity. Having friends who do not exhaust themselves, but rather are figures in which we inspire ourselves to be better people, is undoubtedly a privilege we should never have. To have mothers, fathers or siblings who inspire us, for example, is something that also gives us exceptional foundations to grow in freedom and with maturity. To have friends who do not exhaust themselves, but rather are figures in which we inspire ourselves to be better people, is undoubtedly a privilege that we should never give up. On the other hand, no love can be as full and authentic as one that builds from the roots of respect and the glittering leaves of admiration and mutual inspiration. Because to inspire someone is not necessary to be perfect, in fact, it is enough that others see how they overcome their own imperfections to always give their best in each moment.
Don’t complain about anything, just pray when things get out of your control. I learned that regardless of the difficult moments, the struggles and disappointments that we go through, the tiredness and even the unwelcome we have to be thankful to Allah (SWT)for everything, and always believe that there is a purpose in each situation, and that if we know how to deal with each one without tearing ourselves apart, and without opening spaces for bad feelings, we win, and win with great courage, and with a lot of love and self-respect. I am not saying that we should accept suffering or clap for failures in any way.
But that we must necessarily understand that greater is He who is in us, inspire and motivate us. and it is from Him that our victory comes.
Author is a regular columnist of Good Morning Kashmir. He can be reached at sajadhassan316@gmail.com
