Our world is in need. We are slowly losing the humanity that makes up our essence, because of the accelerated, cold, and materialistic context that gives aggressiveness, competition, and violence to the dynamics of daily life. Appearances take the place of scruples, hugs lose space for nods, and dialogues fall under disconnected virtual messages. The world lacks love. We need to be kinder to each other.
To be kind is to put yourself in the other’s shoes, understanding that each of us has a personal life story and feels events in our way. People are different from each other and deal with life experiences according to what they have within them. We do not want to feel and react as we do but try to understand that the other comes from places where we have not been and become who we are after having experienced facts that we do not know. To be gracious is to show gratitude for all that life and people bring to us, for the daily learning we have the opportunity to obtain. Everything that happens to us and to us, whether positive or negative, will serve to reflect on our attitudes and behaviors, in the sense that we become better and stronger people. Valuing victories and learning from failures will determine the course we will take and the quality of life we will be building on our journey.
The world already suffers from too many tragedies to ignore the good we can do, helping to make life less cold and discolored. Gentleness is, therefore, indispensable because it spreads, spreads, multiplies, and cures, making us happier, more human, more people. Sincere smiles, straight from our hearts, will always be a sweet remedy amid everyday tribulations, for they are born of our purest and true truth – and this is what the world needs. Time passes incredibly quickly and leaves all kinds of marks on us. Some in our body and others in the heart. A frown line around the eyes may seem like ‘the end’ at first, but I know that it contains stories that a whole book couldn’t tell.
Time changes our bodies, our faces, and our way of seeing life. And at the end of the day, what does an extra kilo or a new wrinkle matter if my soul is fitter than ever that’s what matters! Aging is the only way to live a long time. A mature age is one in which you are still young but with much more effort. What torments me most about the foolish things of my youth is not that I committed them… it’s that I can’t do them again. Aging is moving from passion to compassion and humbleness. Many people don’t make it to eighty because they waste a lot of time trying to stay in their forties. Happy is he who was young in his youth, happy is he who was wise in his old age, and happy is humble.
It’s about being light, kind, good, loyal, true, and focusing on what matters. Be kind even when you’re tired. Be understanding even when you feel angry. Controlling yourself when angry can save you years of regret. Do more than just your obligation and never do anything expecting something in return. Put it on the account of life, because the final settlement will be fair. Respect everyone, including those you think don’t deserve your respect, after all, this has nothing to do with their character, but with yours. Each one offers what overflows the heart. Whenever I talk about giving our best always, some people question and say that in theory, everything is easy, but that practicing it is almost impossible.
No one gives what they don’t have, or never had. Take this into account when dealing with “difficult” people. Someone who only knows disrespect, aggression, prejudice, devaluation and lack of love, where are you going to get the good feelings from? Then some counter: “Everyone has conflicts, and that is not my problem”. And it’s ok to think that way, we all have free will, and the choice not to care. But if you, like me, belong to the team of those who care, and who have already felt the pain of being neglected, know that you, me, and I, can make a difference. Can you imagine if those people who don’t have anything good to give start to receive love, respect, and compassion, will it be that at a certain point, they won’t feel like passing it on? The world is too cold and we all need a little more effort and will to make it warmer with love, respect, compassion, and kindness. If you can and want, do your part. Life will thank you because what changes the game is the way you face it, face it, love it, and have fun. It’s about being light, being good, loyal, true, and focusing on what matters. If you’ve noticed that you’re not being able to offer your best, know that it’s not shameful to ask for help.
To be kind is to cheer for the success of others, to let everyone shine, because each of us has something to offer the world, something that can make a difference in everyone’s life. No one will take what is ours, nobody steals from the other what is already reserved. Our abilities and talents stand out in their own right, despite any attempts by others to overshadow us. Learning to feel contentment with the achievements of others will free us from the ways of selfishness and affective distance. To be kind is to know how to put and expose points of view without rudeness, firmness, and education. The consistency and coherence of what we think will not be accepted more or less according to the vehemence of our words but will stand as truth because of the way it holds up against contrary opinions.
Persuading through coercive attitudes is tantamount to forcing something into what the other then pretends to believe. The way we expose our thoughts will determine the truthfulness and acceptance of the hearer. To be kind is to make sure that people always know that we love them, that they are important to us, and that we need them on our journey so that we can breathe more calmly and face the joys hand in glove with those who are always with our side, whatever. The certainty of being loved strengthens our truths, dispels doubts, raises our spirits, and caresses our souls. Love also feeds on sincere kindness. Let’s not forget the magic words learned in kindergarten: “Thank you,” “Please” and “Excuse me.”
To be kind is to know how to live and live in society, accepting differences and sharing knowledge and attitudes of solidarity, competing for the harmony of the environments in which we travel. And it depends on our accepting ourselves, first and foremost, in everything that defines us, experiencing what moves our desires and dreams, fully and sincerely. Only by living what we are, what we have within us, will we be ready to embrace others’ lives with understanding and empathy.
Author is a teacher by profession. He can be mailed at sajadhassan316@gmail.com
