A lot of ladies are struggling with pregnancy issues nowadays. In our valley, a large number of women are not able to conceive due to which they get into extreme depression. When a woman’s test comes negative, they are blamed. The in-laws don’t ask their son to go for a test but they target their daughter-in-law. Nobody from the family questions the son. All tests are supposed to be done by the woman herself. In reality, there can be infertility issues in men also like low sperm count, problems with the functioning of testicles, or some other health issues which can become a barrier in getting pregnant. Likewise, there are many health issues due to which women can’t conceive. They feel so scared of what the in-laws might think of her. In our society, a woman who is not able to conceive is treated badly. She is taunted by her husband and the in-laws. We came across so many women who have been trying for years for a baby but haven’t been able to make it up. A 35 years woman said that she has tried many IFVs which have failed. Her health is also affected but the in-laws are not ready to understand the situation. That her husband threatens to leave her and the family also passes sarcastic comments making her feel a lesser human being. Why male infertility is not challenged? Why do only women have the burdens of getting pregnant? Why do people taunt women who can’t conceive? It is ironic that we make great claims of loving our partners. Once they have any problem we just leave their hand. If a man is infertile, the woman tries to cover his flaws but when a woman fails for a baby, she is tortured and her life is made hell. Women in the valley are so stressed.
They often visit hospitals trying to get proper treatments. The truth is that they want to see their in-laws happy. They risk their lives by getting treatments to bring an heir for the family still the efforts are not appreciated. The woman doesn’t enjoy her life but she is on a mission to conceive. In the end, when she is not able to get pregnant after so many years of treatment, she finally breaks down. She loses all hope. Society is cruel and mean. They never ask her about how she is but always call her childless. As soon as a marriage takes place the inlaws expect a child and force the newly wedded lady to conceive. They don’t care if she is physically and mentally prepared. They also force their son and the daughter-in-law to have the baby as soon as possible. Many women feel pressurized and don’t understand how to deal with the situation. We are not saying that a child is not important but there is a fixed time to everything. The husbands and his family need to understand well that if it is in their destiny a child will be born and if it is not in their fate, no matter how much one tried it will never take place. Women must be respected more when they are childless. They should be treated with equal love and respect. Never make them feel that they are incapable and women must never make men feel that it is because of them, they can’t conceive. By doing this Allah will reward them in the near future. Who doesn’t want to become a mother? A woman is supposed to deliver a child and if she or her husband has complications, they must stand by each other in tough times. Allah is best aware of who to bring to this world and who not. We can’t decide on our part.
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